Whether you’re looking to start a new career or just trying to learn more about what makes you you, a good place to start when searching for a fuller understanding of yourself is to ask: “What’s my gift?”
It might seem like a difficult undertaking, but there are a variety of steps you can take to uncover your gift. Discovering what makes you special unlocks a lot of opportunities—in the workplace, in your relationships, and in your community.
You will be able to channel your energy into making the most of what you do best, and boost your sense of self-worth at the same time.
Discovering your gift probably sounds like a tough task. After all, “what’s my gift?” is a big question with big answers. But it doesn’t have to be a mysterious or mystical process.
Your gift is simply a strength you have. It could be as broad as working with your hands or as specific as throwing ceramics, you just have to be open to finding it.
You know yourself better than anyone, and there are a few places you can start if you are feeling a little lost.
There’s a good chance that your gift is related to your passions.
Is there anything you enjoy doing? Your hobbies and interests have a strong connection to discovering your gift. For the most part, we enjoy doing things we are good at, so one of your favorite activities might just be part of your gift.
There are a few categories you can break your interests into if you are having a hard time getting started.
Think about your time in school. Whether you are still in school or you have finished your educational career, what you liked to do in school plays into discovering your gift.
Were there any subjects you liked to study? Say your favorite subject was math. Your gift could very well be crunching numbers.
The same idea applies to every school subject. From math to English, advanced skills in any school subject create opportunities in everyday life.
You could also consider the types of assignments you enjoyed. Were you a great collaborator when it came to group projects? Did you take the lead on partnered assignments? How were your presentation or debate skills?
Taking a look at your time in school can shed light on how you handle information—whether your own processing or in communication with others—as well as your interpersonal skills that might be related to your gift.
Your hobbies, like your favorite school subject, could lead you to discovering your gift.
Do you like to draw, or knit, or make things in your free time? Do you like to play sports, or perform, or play music?
All of these hobbies and interests and endless others could be related to your gift. With some digging, you might find that creating things, coaching others, or performance is your gift.
Even things that seem normal like watching movies or reading books could indicate that you have a gift for creative or analytical thinking.
When asking, “What is my gift?” you should take a look at your larger life choices. What do you do for work right now? Why did you end up in this job?
You chose your field for a reason, and what you do may be a manifestation of your gift.
Think about the different aspects of your job. Is there one particular area where you excel? Try to focus on what parts of your job are especially interesting to you and make the decision to put your energy into exploring them.
If nothing immediately comes to mind when you think about your education, interests, and career, try looking at your everyday life. Parts of our lives that seem broad or unimportant could be the key to your gift.
Most people help others in small ways in their day-to-day lives. However, if you find yourself going out of your way to meet others’ needs, altruism might be one of your gifts.
Having the desire to dedicate yourself to helping others is a special gift that a lot of people overlook. If you find yourself enjoying volunteering, doing favors, or serving people in your community in other ways, then explore ways to incorporate more of this gift into other areas of your life.
Do you love meeting new people and talking to them? Like altruism, the gift of communication is often overlooked. The ability to effectively communicate ideas and concepts to an individual or audience is a highly useful skill. If you enjoy communicating you can find success in many different fields.
It’s possible that your stellar communication skills could be combined with a gift in teaching, leadership, or mediation.
When you discover your gift, or even if you aren’t quite sure what it is yet, you should get the most out of what you’re good at. Here are some ways to explore your gift or potential gifts.
Are you interested in something but aren’t sure it’s for you? Do you have a skill but want to do more with it? Then taking a class at a community college, recreational center, or other institution can help you hone and expand your skills.
The more you know about a topic, the better you will be able to decide whether or not it is your gift.
If you don’t feel like you are close to discovering your gift, try something new. Do some research and pick up a new hobby. Maybe you have never cooked before, or you want to pick up your childhood interest in astronomy.
You never know when or where you will find your gift, so give yourself as many chances as possible to find it!
The examples above are just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to discovering your gift. There are countless parts of your identity and your interests that could lead you to your gift.
If you’re still hitting a road block and need some prompting, consider taking a free online quiz like the High5 quiz that identifies some of your strengths based on your answers.
It can be intimidating to consider big questions like “What’s my gift?” But once you know your answers, you can work to showcase your strengths in every aspect of life.
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After graduating from law school and passing the bar, I struggled to find work, pay my bills, and make ends meet. That's when I decided to take control of my future and start working for myself. Now, several years and a handful of companies later, I'm sharing how I launched a successful business, and how you can do it too.